My birthday is Thursday. I’ll be 37. I’m celebrating by decorating my house early for Christmas. I realize that most people want to have Thanksgiving before they have Christmas. I’ve never been a Thanksgiving fan so I am happy to just skip over.
One of my least favorite games is the one up game. I don’t like it when I try to one up people and I don’t like it when people try to one up me. It’s strange how so many of us are drawn to this behavior. I suppose it’s some weird quirk in our human nature.
If you’re not sure what I mean here’s a couple examples –
Me: I just got a new iPhone. I’m so excited. I’ve been saving for two years to get one.
Other person: I have had an iPhone since they came out. I can’t believe you don’t have one.
Other person: You have twins?
Me: Yes, they are 10.
Other person: Well, my kids are 9 months apart and that is harder than twins.
Seriously, why do we do this? I’m as guilty as the next person, I am sure. I’ve noticed myself doing it and tried to examine my though process once I noticed it was happening. Sometimes, it’s my way of identifying with the person – trying to let them know I’ve done the same thing or I understand what they’re going through to a certain degree. Sometimes, I simply am annoyed that the other person sounds like they think they are somehow better than me. But, it’s the really weird one ups that make me crazy. When I hear them it’s hard not to comment on the strangeness of it all.
Some of the most odd one ups I’ve come across are (aside from the twin one above which I find super weird/funny):
– My labor hurt more than yours
– My kids are better than yours at sports/school/music/thinking/breathing
– Me staying at home with my kids is better/harder than you working and taking care of your kids
– My experiences outweigh your experiences and license me to give you advice on parenting
– My financial donations are better than yours
Ultimately, I feel like this comparison thing gets us nowhere simply because we are all living different lives with different experiences. It’s impossible to prove to someone that their efforts are somehow less simply because they are not the same as our own.
I am just fascinated that once I started noticing it – I now notice it with SO MANY PEOPLE. They don’t even know they are doing it. Listen around you – you’ll notice it too.
Tomorrow is Election day. We get to vote! What a great nation we live in. I am so excited to go tomorrow.
Be involved. I don’t really care which party you are aligned with (though, I prefer those that agree with me outnumber the ones who don’t, but that’s just my selfishness). There are many men and women who have fought for you to have the right to vote. Use it.
I remember the first time I went to vote. My dad went with me. It was a family thing. And, it was exciting. My dad has always pressed us with the responsibility to use our right to vote. So, it was really cool to finally get to be involved in the process.
I hope you make it to the polls tomorrow or have at least mailed in your ballots. If you’re still unsure who to vote for – check this site out: http://www.isidewith.com/presidential-election-quiz It’s pretty cool. You can expand the options by selecting “add more options” and get down to what you really truly believe.
November is considered the month to give thanks. I like to pretend it’s thanks that I was born in November, but as we all know, it’s more about being thankful for our blessings. Recently I’ve been noticing a trend at our house. We say things we don’t mean and it makes us sound like we are not thankful. We have decided to start working on it.
Here is a list of the first three phrases I know we say at our house and I’m so thankful we don’t mean:
- When we say ‘there’s nothing to eat’ at my house – it generally means ‘there is nothing that sounds good or that doesn’t take a lot of effort for me to make’. We have never been close to starving no matter how low our cabinet stock has been.
- When we say ‘I’m freezing’ we really mean ‘My bed was so cozy and warm. I’d rather be there than getting up to get dressed.’ We do not have to wear coats in our house and we have blankets on our beds.
- When we say ‘I don’t have anything to wear’ we mean ‘I wish I’d washed my favorite things to wear today’ or ‘I would rather have something different to wear’. We all have things to put on our bodies, and we even have people who are willing to give us their perfectly good things so we don’t have to always purchase something new.